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Adobe is evil

Here’s why:

  1. They have discontinued Linux versions of many (all?) of their software.
    You might think “I do not use Linux, so what?” Well, do you have a mobile device? Tough luck. Adobe has also discontinued FlashPlayer for mobile devices. Imagine that all of a sudden some websites simply stop working because you do not have (and cannot have!) the latest FlashPlayer. Your loss. Who told you not to be the average user? They have also discontinued Acrobat Reader for Linux, which would not be such a big problem if they did not decide at the same time to invent their own pdf format ¬¬ (see next).
  2. They have created their very own pdf format that (surprise surprise) only works on their reader!
    They have taken a completely open and popular format and tweaked it such that pdfs created with Adobe’s products only work on their own reader. And I am not talking about special pdf features, such as forms, those pdfs cannot even be read by another software. You might find this familiar:
    screen-shot-2016-09-29-at-12-46-08On top of that, the concept of backward compatibility has completely escaped them, and forms created on version 10 only work on Acrobat Reader versions 10+, which, of course, are only available for Windows and Mac.
  3. They bypass OS configurations to prevent users from saving Adobe’s beloved pdf using the original pdf format.
    Once you have Acrobat Reader 10, you can finally open and fill in some stupid form (always a boring task). Then you might want to save it as a regular pdf (even it this means having it no longer editable) to be able to open wherever. It turns out that Acrobat Reader no longer allows you to save as pdf, only as “Adobe pdf”, and goes so far as to bypass the OS configuration and make the option “print as pdf” unavailable. Why would they do that? This is just plain mean.

Unfortunately there are still many businesses using Adobe’s softwares to create forms, and every now and then I need to find a way around it to fill them in and return. It is getting more difficult every time. All I can do is make people aware that they are using a proprietary format for their files, and thus cannot demand that everyone be able to work with the same format. And believe me, I do. If you own a business and need to distribute forms around, please be aware of this problem. Try to use other tools to generate your pdfs (LaTeX! 😉 ) or at least make sure that they are being generated in the original open pdf format.

About programming languages

After just being hired by a group that thinks SML is the only true language, I should probably not be writing this… but here we go.

Today I participated in another programming contest. Nothing official, just for the fun of it. And I decided to challenge myself and solve the first problem (a really easy problem) in a different language. My language of choice for quick and dirty coding has always been C++. It can easily read and write on standard I/O, has a bunch of libraries and data-structures available, and you can compile and have an executable file with a simple g++ code.cpp. No weird keywords or classes, no linking of funny libraries, no console, just a plain binary file ready to be run, and most importantly, run fast!

But there are all these fancy languages around, so I decided to go ahead and see how they would perform (or better how I would perform with them). The problem in question was a simple one. Given a very big number (up to 10¹⁶), we had to transform it in a funny way (reverse and rotate digits — e.g. 6 becomes a 9) and check if the original and the transformed numbers are both primes [1]. The primality test is the first thing that pops out. Maybe I need to implement a fast primality check algorithm? That’s not the case for this problem, the silly one that checks for divisor between 2 and the square root of the number should work just fine (the time limit is 2s). The problem there is the size of the number. Remember that a 32 bit integer can only hold up to 2.147.483.647, a 10 digit number. So we just need to use a 64 bit integer and it should work just fine. Same algorithm.

My first attempt was to implement it on my English of programming languages (not my native language, but another one in which I am quite fluent): OCaml. The code looked nice, apart from some weird castings from int to float and then to int again because, apparently, sqrt and exponentiation only work on floats (what happened to polymorphic functions? wait… it gets worse). After implementing all my recursive functions beautifully, I tested on a few cases and made sure it was working. Then I tested on the biggest possible input and it worked. Great! Submit… runtime error. 🙁 Turns out that, although my machine is 64 bits, the server is 32, so the integers there were overflowing. All I needed to do is use OCaml’s “long int”. I found two libraries: Int64 and Big_int. Since Big_int had more operations (like sqrt and exponentiation), I went for that one. The problem was that, since I was no longer using int, I was no longer allowed to use + or – or /, no no no. I had to use add_big_int, sub_big_int, div_big_int, and so on. My pretty non-verbose functions were ugly 🙁 . With that came a million type errors, I had to add castings everywhere and link a library when compiling. The thing was just horrendous.

This was more than one hour into the contest. So I decided to try a different thing.

Integers of arbitrary precision? Let’s take a chance on my German of programming languages (I cannot quite speak it but really wish I could): Python. It took me an hour to write a 50 line code, since I had to kind of learn everything from scratch, but I had a working program. In the meantime I learned the hard way that Python and recursion do not go together. It was working for the biggest possible input, and it is Python, so if it needed a longer integer it would switch at runtime. Great! Submit… memory limit exceeded. What? Reading here and there I decided that using range() was the thing to blame, so I switched to a strange islice thing. Submit… time limit exceeded 🙁 Come on!

By the time the contest ended I had two beautiful pieces of code in two different languages that just did not work because of technical reasons. Don’t get me wrong, I am sure these languages have their place and are really good for some stuff. But for coding something easy fast and efficiently, I’ll stick with the good old C++.

Out of curiosity I checked what language the other people in the contest were using. Note that these are all people at least 5 years younger than me, possibly 10, still undergrads in CS. And what were they using? C++!! It is quite impressive, since I am pretty sure they learn programming in Python first, and then go ahead to C or ML. They could choose any of the fancy modern languages, but decide to stick with C++. To show that I do not have a biased sample, just check the statistics of websites like codeforces, spoj or UVa.

To think that I learned how to program in Java (it was the latest thing) and nowadays kids are learning how to program in Python (it is the latest thing), the persisting use of C++ says something about it. A colleague referred to C as an honest language. I think C++ is fits this description too. No fancy stuff, it is the thinnest layer between you and assembly code, and it does the job pretty well.

[1] Problem K here.

About obesity

I am taking the opportunity of being at CMU for a semester and attending a course on behavioral economics and public policy. Behavioral economics is a topic that caught my attention a while ago and it’s been interesting to see it under the lens of public policy. The course is quite American-centered, and being a non-American (or “alien”, as the government likes to call me) makes it only more interesting. I am trying to understand what is the mindset, what is the “normal” around here, and I am still in awe every now and then. It’s a good state to be in. But anyway…

Today in class the subject of obesity was briefly mentioned. It is seen as a public health problem, and we were studying ways (read, public policies) to motivate people to loose weight. But that’s treating the symptom, not the cause. I like to treat causes, seems more effective. So, for the reasons why obesity is a problem, it was mentioned: decrease in food prices (specially unhealthy food), lack of time (arguably not true, we just suck at time management), sedentary lives, working parents and larger portions (why America? why??). We might add dining out and drinking soda like crazy to that list, as discussed here. Fair enough. These all look like reasonable reasons for a less healthy diet and consequent increase on obesity. Then I had an epiphany: those reasons are not America-exclusive. People are more stressed everywhere, both parents are working everywhere, sedentary lives are everywhere, cheap fast food and soda is available everywhere. So what creates this enormous demand for big portions of deep fried chicken in America specifically? [1]

Unfortunately I do not have an answer for that. What I know is that the unhealthy eating seems to be an acceptable thing. I never saw so many ads for food as I see it on TV here. Really. If you are ever in the US and have a chance to watch some TV, do it. Even for half an hour. It is an interesting experience (not only because of the food ads). I have the feeling that one in every three ads is about food. And not healthy food: fried chicken, giant burgers, 2 feet (~60 cms) pizza, a burrito stuffed with three types of different melted cheese, pancakes made with buttery croissant dough, chocolate cookies filled with more chocolate and marshmallows… you name it. Ironically, another third fraction of the commercials are dedicated to medicaments. As if it is not enough to bombard people with ads for greasy and processed food, they go to the next level and actually *scorn* healthy eating. Just take a look at this or that. Americans, do you have any idea how absurd it is to have an ad like that? This should have never ever been approved!! I would boycott Domino’s if I ever ate there.

I am not sure if these ads can be counted as a cause or effect of obesity, it is a chicken-and-egg problem. What I know is that regulating such things properly will do no harm, but only good [2]. It’s a no-brainer. On top of motivating people to loose weight, how about cutting on the temptation for eating in the first place?

[1] As a side note, Brazil is also not the healthiest country around. And I lived there, and even so I cannot explain what happens… Seems to be a cultural thing (that needs to change!).

[2] Regulation is needed when people lack the common sense and allow such horrendous ads. Unfortunately, those that make regulations are also people.

About questions

I used to think that people, in general, had problems when it comes to asking questions. What was my surprise when I recently realized that, in fact, we also have problems in *getting* questions! Given the important status questions have for the exchange and construction of ideas [1], it is really a shame that we both don’t like to ask questions or receive them.

You might be very familiar with the feeling of holding back a question because you might sound [insert here whatever adjective works best for you]. But being asked? Yes. It turns out that instead of listening a question as it should be, i.e. just a question, we add our own interpretation to it and reply (or not) to that. We see questions as criticism, as challenges, as disagreement… but have you ever thought that it might be, in reality, *just* a question? (In spite of what your biased self might “notice” about language, tone, etc.)

Try that for a while. Get rid of your prejudices and take the questions as they come. You will see life becomes much much lighter. Answer sincerely (even if it means saying “I do not know the answer”) and ask sincerely (even if you think it’s a [same adjective as before] question). You will notice how communication improves, how it is possible to have an argument without it getting to your head and how everyone feels less intimidated. It’s good all around!

And if it just so happens that someone does have an ill-intended question, you can see the disappointment in their eyes with your honest answer 😉

 

[1] I must leave here a special thanks to my classmates from grad041, who taught me the importance of argumentation, and that friendship is independent of agreement. There are very few circles where questions are so well received as with these people 😀

O Banco do Brasil é o banco mais seguro do mundo (4)

Na última vez que voltei ao Brasil, me deparei com uma pilha de correspondências do Banco do Brasil pra mim. Não só ele quer que eu vá na agência, mas também me manda carta. É um banco romântico! Não se fazem mais bancos como antigamente…

O que acontece é que, todo mês, o BB manda um extrato de investimentos pra eu saber o que anda acontecendo. Já que eu não consigo ver muita coisa online mesmo naquele site super bem implementado. Eu achei um desperdício aquele tanto de extrato. Desperdício de papel, de tinta de impressora e de tempo do carteiro. Decidi tentar cancelar o serviço.

Primeiro busquei como fazer isso online, mas a gente já viu que o BB não é muito da era tecnológica. Eles gostam mesmo que a gente vá na agência, dê oi pro gerente, conte como anda a vida… Eu dei mais uma chance pro telefone. Liguei lá no 4004 comemorando que eu estava no Brasil e o número finalmente funcionava. Aí ele me pede uma senha de 4 dígitos do telefone. Aí eu digito a senha (que, de novo, por um milagre eu lembrei) e, tádá! senha bloqueada! “Por favor compareça a uma agência para o desbloqueio.” Ok. Dessa vez eles me pegaram. Não tinha como escapar.

Fui da agência (sem o computador dessa vez, aprendi minha lição), peguei a senha e dos 5 gerentes que estavam lá, dois estavam conversando com outros clientes, dois estavam batendo papo entre si e outro estava fazendo não sei o quê. Esperei uns 20 minutos numa fila com duas outras pessoas na minha frente. Afinal de contas, agência cheia né, eles ficam inventando motivo pra gente ir lá… Fui atendida, refiz a senha do telefone (que a essa altura do campeonato já está bloqueada de novo) e pedi pra cancelar o recebimento de extrato.

Não não… Cancelamento de recebimento de extrato é feito no caixa eletrônico. Mentira! Existe mesmo um serviço que é feito *só* no caixa eletrônico e não dentro da agência? Eu quase caí pra trás quando me falaram isso. Vamos ver finalmente como funciona qualquer coisa automatizada nesse banco! Uhuuu!

Saí da agência, peguei outra fila pro caixa eletrônico. Coloquei o cartão, digitei a senha, sílabas, aniversário, ano de nascimento do pai, número do sapato da mãe (não pode sempre fazer as mesmas perguntas né?), três pulinhos e uma voltinha. Voilá! Serviço cancelado. Como eu saí em menos de um mês, não sei de fato se os extratos pararam de ser enviados, ou se meu pai tem queimado eles quando chegam temendo pela minha sanidade mental…

O Banco do Brasil é o banco mais seguro do mundo (3)

Da última vez que estive no Brasil, comprei uma coisa via internet e precisava pagar a conta. Como só tenho um cartão de débito, tive que usar o bom e velho boleto bancário.

Tentativa de pagamento 1: pagamento online, claro. Mais fácil e conveniente, funciona sem sair de casa. Entro no site, peço o código, recebo o código, autorizo o computador… A gente já sabe o esquema. Vou pagar, digito 5 mil números do código de barra e… operação não permitida. Por quê? Não sabemos… nunca saberemos.

Tentativa de pagamento 2: vou em uma agência pagar no caixa eletrônico. Era sábado. Passei pela porta giratória com um detector de metal, fui num caixa… em manutenção. Fui em outro caixa… manutenção. Na verdade nenhum dos caixas onde eu podia realizar pagamentos estava funcionando. Havia um segurança dentro da agência que me informou que os caixas estavam sendo abastecidos de dinheiro. Ele não sabia me dizer quanto tempo levaria. Pessoal trabalhador né… enchendo caixa no final de semana.

Tentativa de pagamento 3: voltei no dia seguinte. Os caixas pareciam estar funcionando, as pessoas estavam fazendo operações normais e tudo mais. Fui feliz com meu boleto em um deles. Coloquei meu cartão, digitei a senha, sílabas (que por um milagre eu lembrei de cabeça), data do meu aniversário, nome do pai, nome de solteira da mãe, endereço do avô, raça do cachorro e tudo mais que ele queria saber (também dei um tchauzinho pra câmera só pra eles terem certeza que eu era eu!). Digito 5 mil números do código de barra e… operação não permitida! Não vamos perguntar porquê. Um colega ofereceu pagar pra mim online mas eu não quis arriscar. Vai que o banco não me deixa sacar o dinheiro pra pagar ele…

Tentativa de pagamento 4: ir num caixa à moda antiga. Era tudo que eles queriam, finalmente me fazer ir a uma agência! Falar com uma pessoa ao vivo e a cores! Nesse dia eu estava com meu computador na mochila, e o computador não cabe na caixinha pra deixar chave e celular que tem do lado do detector de metais [1]. Nessa agência não tinha escaninho. Eu estava literalmente na rua, com uma mochila com computador, tentando passar por uma porta giratória com um detector de metais [2]. Aquilo não ia funcionar. Bati no vidrinho da agência até um segurança me ver, apontei o computador e a porta, e ele apertou qualquer coisa lá que desativou o detector de metais e me deixou passar. Entrei na fila do caixa, passei por uma menina que está lá só pra clicar umas opções bestas numa telinha e me dar um papelzinho com a senha. Minha senha foi chamada. Fui no caixa. A moça do caixa não pareceu tão contente assim em me ver… Paguei a conta. Sucesso!

Agora pensa se eu tivesse dado o azar de precisar pagar alguma coisa não estando no Brasil hein? Afinal de contas, foram apenas quatro tentativas e pronto!

[1] Se pagar uma conta já é difícil, entrar no banco também tem que ser, oras.

[2] Talvez eles tenham problemas com pessoas que usam computador? Olha que é uma boa teoria hein!

O Banco do Brasil é o banco mais seguro do mundo (2)

Mais um conto da série.

Eu tinha mudado pra Viena há pouco tempo quando precisei acessar minha conta do Banco do Brasil online fora do país pela primeira vez. Isso devia ser meados de 2011. Se você está lendo isso na ordem, deve saber pela última história que toda vez que preciso acessar o site do BB, tenho que receber um novo código de autorização do computador no celular.

A primeira vez que isso aconteceu e eu estava fora do país, o único celular cadastrado na minha conta era o meu antigo, que já não existia mais. Tinha então que cadastrar um novo telefone (que só pode ser do Brasil), e pra isso, adivinha? Tenho que ir na agência! Esse pessoal deve gostar muito de atender cliente. Imagino que chegarei lá e estarão todos de braços abertos com um sorriso enorme me esperando…

Com sorte eu tinha deixado uma procuração com meu pai que basicamente dá direito a ele ser eu pra qualquer coisa. Então ele me fez o favor de ir na agência ser eu e cadastrar o número do telefone dele na minha conta. Pelo menos agora eu vou poder acessar minha conta de vez né? Ah vou…

E quando eu precisei acessar a conta e o meu pai estava me visitando fora do Brasil? O celular dele não estava funcionando e portanto não consegui receber o código. Decidi usar o bom e velho telefone, e depois de um bom tempo procurando um número que (1) funcionasse via Skype [1] e (2) não precisasse da senha do telefone que (surpresa!) estava bloqueada, consegui falar com uma pessoa. Após confirmar todos os meus dados, ela me perguntou o que poderia fazer por mim e eu pedi pra ter acesso à conta online. Ela me disse que não era possível. Por que não? Porque não tinha como ela ter certeza de que eu era eu. Você sabe, medidas de segurança né… Vai que tem alguém com um revólver na minha cabeça pedindo pelo amor de deus por um código pra desbloquear o computador pra eles poderem… hmm… ver meu saldo? [2] [1] Números 0800, 4004 e cia não funcionam via Skype.

[2] Parece que essa é a única operação que eu consigo fazer de todo jeito. Terceira historinha aqui.

O Banco do Brasil é o banco mais seguro do mundo (1)

Ou o mais carente. Vou explicar.

Mês passado eu tentei acessar minha conta do Banco do Brasil online. Eu estava em Viena, na Áustria. Ao clicar em “Acesse sua conta”, o site é redirecionado pra uma página onde tenho que colocar o número da conta e senha. Mas antes disso, como de praxe, ele me avisa que vai executar um jar e pergunta se eu tenho mesmo certeza se quero fazer isso.

bb-jar

Duas vezes. Eu tenho que realmente ter certeza. [1]

Depois de entrar todos os dados, a página me avisa que não posso realizar nenhuma operação porque meu computador não está autorizado. Claro! Eu atualizei o Firefox. Toda vez que atualizo o Firefox (que acontece mais ou menos uma vez por mês) o Banco do Brasil esquece que meu computador é autorizado. Faz todo sentido.

Então eu tenho que receber um código pelo celular pra autorizar meu “novo” computador. Só que não pode ser pra qualquer celular, tem que ser pra um celular no Brasil. Dei sorte de já ter passado por todo o processo de cadastrar o número do meu pai na minha conta sem estar fisicamente no país [2]. Pedi que enviassem o código então e aguardei meu pai me mandar. Ele não estava com o telefone na hora, mas depois de algum tempo recebi o código.

Ao tentar acessar o site de novo, me deparo com uma mensagem dizendo que minha senha foi bloqueada. Eu devo ir num caixa eletrônico com meu cartão pra desbloquear ou numa agência. Desconfiei que o acesso foi bloqueado porque eu estava no exterior. Pedi pro meu pai tentar acessar o site do Brasil, mas nada. Senha bloqueada. Ele gentilmente ofereceu ir numa agência pra mim. O gerente o informou que não só minha senha da internet, mas todas as senhas, foram bloqueadas por “medida de segurança”. Sabe-se lá qual. Ninguém conseguiu me explicar ainda. Pra desbloquear a senha eu deveria ir pessoalmente na agência… ou ir na embaixada brasileira, redigir uma procuração pro meu pai, assinar com firma reconhecida e enviar via Sedex. É uma praticidade sem fim!

Eu pensei que talvez existisse um jeito mais fácil. Entrei em contato com o Banco do Brasil via Facebook explicando a situação. Depois de explicar que eu não poderia ir a uma agência e não tinha procurador no Brasil, eles me mandaram um formulário que eu deveria enviar preenchido e assinado, com uma cópia de algum documento, pra um e-mail da minha agência [3]. (Olha só, já ficou mais simples do que o esquema do Sedex hein!) Um dos campos que eu deveria preencher nesse formulário era o endereço IP do computador utilizado pra acessar o site. Mesmo? Endereço de IP? Que bonitinho eles tentando ser tecnológicos… Como se eu usasse *um* computador, em *uma* rede, com *IP  estático*! Parece minha avó perguntando qual é meu novo endereço de e-mail depois que eu mudei.

Enfim, mandei o formulário deixando claro que não tinha um IP fixo de onde eu sempre acessaria o site deles. Isso faz uma semana. Sem notícias ainda. Talvez eles estejam confusos com o esquema do IP que muda. Talvez eles estejam com saudades de mim e queiram que eu pegue um avião pra dar um pulinho lá na agência. Pelo menos ninguém mais tem acesso à minha conta né? (Ou será que tem??)

Vamos ver quanto tempo vai demorar pra eu recuperar esse acesso. Aguardem cenas dos próximos capítulos.

[1] Quem ainda usa Java Applets empacotados em jars pra rodar um simples formulário em uma página web hoje em dia? Sinceramente…

[2] Segunda historinha. Veja aqui.

[3] Fato interessante: Nesse meio tempo, o meu noivo teve o mesmo problema. Sua senha de acesso à internet foi bloqueada. Ele entrou em contato com o BB no Facebook um dia depois de mim. Em três dias ele recebeu uma mensagem dizendo que a senha havia sido desbloqueada. Belas políticas incoerentes de segurança!

About stupidity

Recently I came across this quote:

“When you are dead, you don’t know that you are dead.It is difficult only for the others… It is the same when you are stupid.” [1]

Isn’t this the best quote ever?

At times when people are voting for Donald Trump, enormous corruption scandals are being unveiled, terrorist attacks are becoming the norm as well as bombarding others’ countries, we all have something to say about stupid people. As unbelievably stupid as others may seem, we need to keep in mind a couple of things:

1. We might appear equally stupid for others as well, and;
2. In the end, we are all just people.

For the sake of not appearing stupid and for reducing the general level of stupidity in the world, let’s try to understand how this happens. Fortunately I am not the first one to ask this question, and much more competent people have studied this before. We should learn from them. In 1999, David Dunning and Justing Kruger ran a series of experiments to test how people assess their own competence at a task. This was inspired by a very interesting fact:

“The study was inspired by the case of McArthur Wheeler, a man who robbed two banks after covering his face with lemon juice in the mistaken belief that, because lemon juice is usable as invisible ink, it would prevent his face from being recorded on surveillance cameras.”

I know… I know… How in the world can a person think that lemon juice would make their face invisible on cameras? And if they thought so, why haven’t they tested it *before* robbing a bank? It turns out that the lack of competence is so big, but so big, that they are unable to doubt their reasoning and think for a second that they might be wrong.

Now, this is an extreme case, of course, but the study has shown that incompetent people were often over confident, and guessed a much higher score than they actualy got. This is known as the Dunning-Kruger effect.

At this point you might be thinking: “Sure, but I am not a stupid person.”
Aren’t you? Think again. If a stupid person is not able to assess their own stupidity, how do you know you are not one of them? [2] How do I know *I* am not one of them? No one wants to be seen as stupid by other people, so we should really find out.

The Dunning-Kruger effect is observed when unskilled persons have what is called “illusory superiority”. The name is self-explanatory. It is also known as the above average effect (e.g. in a survey, 87% of MBA students at Stanford University rated their performance above the median — something which is mathematically impossible). How can we avoid the self-inflated judgement of ourselves? This being a cognitive bias, it is virtually impossible to get rid of 100% in practice. Nevertheless, I believe there are some things we can do to alleviate it:

Doubt yourself

Whenever you think you know about something, google it. But don’t just take the first link, google also makes mistakes and the results of searches are biased. Make sure the sources you are checking are reliable, and be aware how far your knowledge goes. Inform yourself, check the facts and make sure you are not over simplifying (or maybe complicating!) things. (That is healthy doubting. We do not want the kind of unhealthy doubting that makes us crawl underneath the covers and feel bad about ourselves!)

Challenge your beliefs

It can be very healthy to talk to people that disagree with you, if they are equaly engaged and willing to explain their point (and not ofended by your questions [3]). It is good to understand the other side’s reasoning that led them to a different conclusion than yours, and it is good to explain your reasoning to others. Explaining is a very nice way to sanity-check your reasoning.

Learn from experience

If you are in a situation that others have been before, take a look at the past experiences. How are they similar to what you are going through? How are they different? What actions were taken? What was the outcome? Has someone conducted scientific studies on this before? Learn something from them.

Don’t let emotions get in the way

When someone says we are wrong, our first reaction is to listen to the “you are wrong” part and ignore completely why they think we are wrong. We are humans and we don’t like being wrong, but the moment we start being defensive is the moment emotion takes over reasoning. And emotions tend to make us even more biased. So if you feel your heart beating harder when you listen to something, take a step back, breath, and think coldly what exactly it was that made you startle. You might even learn a thing or two about yourself.

Give information instead of opinions

When you think someone is being stupid about something, give them some information they can reflect on. If they even think you implied they are wrong, they will stop listening to you. If you have ever changed your mind, you know that this is not a straightforward procedure. It takes time and it has to come from within. The best you can do is provide more information so the person can think for themselves.

Good luck and stay wise!

[1] Possibly attributed to Philippe Geluck, but I could not check with absolute certainty.
[2] I am not saying you will put lemon juice on your face and rob a bank. Please don’t be angry. I am not calling anyone stupid.
[3] This happens more often than not, unfortunately.